Originally published in Cultivating (Summer 2018) and updated here, this is an essay on what has changed in my perspective regarding a hectic and bewildering chapter of my growing-up years.
Sometimes I have dreams about the Korean subway.
Sometimes the blunt-faced gray train arrives. Sometimes I wait, walking heel to toe along the grooved concrete tiles laid for the blind, for transport that never comes. The dreams are always about something else — friends from different chapters of my life who inexplicably know each other, a harrowing mission, a routine day as a student — but the Seoul Metro has worked itself in over the years, like a bit actor whose face becomes familiar through sheer repetition.
Its presence is no mystery when you add up my whereabouts as a teenager. A one-hour commute by bus, subway, and foot to school every weekday. Two hours each way to an English-language church service on Sundays. If I close my eyes I can hear the exact, muffled rhythm of those clacking train wheels hurtling through dim tunnels, and I can see the reflection of other faces in the black glass. I avert my gaze whenever any of them chances to look my way.
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The awkward stage of my childhood is preserved in mental snapshots, and perhaps that’s the way I saw Korea from the very beginning — from the sweltering summer day when my family and I stepped off an international flight into a crowd of relatives I’d never met before.
In the six years that followed, my mind recorded reels of objects. Shoulders, knees, and briefcases at rush hour. The chevron pattern of the red-bricked walk to school. Cherry blossoms in the spring, their petals raining gloriously off the branches at first but then scattering across the schoolyard like feeble white-winged moths. Beside the bus stop, I saw a heap of dead pigeon beneath an overpass that no one cleaned up for a week, gradually graying and flattening into the asphalt.
I saw the underbelly of the country in those days, the way a passerby winces at a parent losing patience with a child, the way a foreigner first learns the slang of a foreign language instead of its literature.
“Speak Korean,” spat an elderly man on an afternoon train, as I stood talking with my friends and teacher. “This is Korea.” My face flamed. For a girl in junior high who hated being singled out for negative reasons, public admonishment was the highest mark of shame. Yet there seemed to be so many hapless ways to achieve it: walking on grass anywhere in the city, failing to keep my balance as the bus lurched over steep streets, being young in a culture of age-based hierarchies.
Even reading an English book on the subway attracted attention — the envy of mothers of small children and the hand-smothered gossip of Korean schoolgirls. But I opened my books nevertheless, risking the occasional barrage of verbal shrapnel. I needed the refuge and comfort I found through these portals to other places and other lives.
While the dozing heads of strangers nodded onto my shoulder and waves of commuters came and went, I immersed myself in historical fiction, young adult novels, and especially biographies. Amy Carmichael. Corrie ten Boom. Jim and Elisabeth Elliot. Hudson Taylor. George Müller. John and Betty Stam. Seoul faded; Dohnavur, Haarlem, and Bristol beckoned in its place.
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I had become a Christian a few months after moving to Korea, and I thirsted for stories about men and women who wholeheartedly believed the word of God. As I read, the land around me seemed to grow less and less relevant to my newfound faith. The story that mattered was the story of the Fall and of Christ’s death and resurrection, after all. I didn’t have to tie my identity to the question posed by every friend and stranger who demanded to know which home I liked more — “Korea or America?” The truest heritage I held was rooted in a new covenant and a better country.
When we moved back to the States the year I finished eleventh grade, some inward part of me began to breathe again. I shook the dust of my growing-up years from my heels, and along with it, the bulk of my experience of an entire country — except, of course, the transportation logistics that cropped up in my dreams.
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But this summer, a library book filled with photographs of Korea lies on our coffee table.
I’ve been turning its pages, following long-forgotten features with my fingertips. Rocks emerge from thickly forested mountains, like the chipped bark of giant trees coming up through moss in an ancient fairy tale. Traditional sloping roofs with upturned eaves seem to hold up invisible histories of their own. Schoolchildren grin over tantalizing food from street vendors, while men and women in tailored suits hurry to work between skyscrapers and monks traverse garden paths between hundred-year-old trees.
I linger over these images, as if looking at them hard enough will expand their frames. For lately I’ve begun to recall certain things: scenes and details that have taken the better part of two decades to surface in my memory.
Remember? they seem to say, walking me through the courtyard of Deoksu Palace. Impressionist paintings from the Musée d’Orsay hang inside on this drizzly day, but I only dimly recall the paving stones, the filigreed gold frames, the thickly layered brushstrokes on the Van Gogh paintings. A quick internet search shows me how little I captured of my surroundings.
Remember? I can picture the hole-in-the-wall eatery where my friends and I would go after school, laughing breathlessly, sharing cheap and abundant plates of spicy rice cakes. Somewhere in the city, too, is the tiny alley bookshop where I purchased my first slim volume of English poetry.
Remember? Faces begin to take shape. The relatives who enfolded us, talking late into the night, aunts and grandmothers and cousins forever urging another bite. The kind manager at the Word of Life bookstore who recognized me even when years passed between my visits, and who always pressed a small gift into my hand when I left.
Beauty was present in those six years, quietly flowing beneath my feet and remaining in my wake. I’ve had to grow in order to see it — to learn that my God is much bigger than I once thought, and that His character gleams through all His creation. Photographs like the ones in the coffee table book, and even images from the recent Winter Olympic opening ceremony in Pyeongchang, glint with His creativity. They have been catching the light of my imagination and winking at me as I look back to the land of my roots; more than ever before, I am aware that His mercy gleams in the 51 million narratives He is weaving across the sea this very minute.
But I think it’s the stories that have reawakened me the most.
Your maternal great-grandfather had a long Kaiser Wilhelm beard and big eyes and a narrow nose, and his presence was intimidating. As provost of a university he kept an open house, so visitors milled in and out all day long. When the war broke out, his son — your grandfather — crossed Nakdong River with three-month-old Uncle on his head, because the water was neck-deep. Their small family fled to Busan, where Grandma grew bean sprouts in styrofoam cups to sell at market. She would hang the baby’s cloth diapers over a bare light bulb to dry, which made them turn black.
Your paternal grandfather was prone to seasickness. So even though we lived on a very small island, he was not a fisherman. He grew vegetables and yellow melons on a small plot of land in front of our house. Your grandmother put the melons in a basket on her head and bartered them in neighboring villages for dried fish and other things, and then traveled ten hours by boat to trade the fish for fruit in Incheon. She brought that fruit back to sell in the island villages.
Christmas on the island always started with the collection of sweets from all the houses, which would be handed out to the children at church, and carol singing…
Gradually, through holiday visits and impromptu interviews, I’ve been hearing more of the tales — the relationships and partings, the gatherings and relinquishments — that have led to my existence. My husband and I both lean in and pepper my parents with questions when they come to stay. Listening to these stories no longer feels incongruent with what I read in the Bible, for before me is ample evidence that He has been at work in many places besides Jerusalem and Capernaum and the Sea of Galilee — even in places where His name has not been known. To hear of it is to see the beauty and the faithfulness of my God.
I listen, and I am reminded that the King is still calling His beloved to Him.
In view of that great work, “I will sing of the steadfast love of the Lord, forever,” as the Psalmist says; “with my mouth I will make known your faithfulness to all generations” (89:1). In scribbled snippets and video clips, I’ve begun to gather these sheaves of story to pass on to my children. The serendipitous phone call that led to their grandparents’ marriage, their great-grandmother’s escape from the North with the help of the resistance movement, their own mother’s conversion prayer in an international school classroom: these are the stories I want to tell them, right alongside the inspiring lives I once read of on the subway.
For Christ has been and is at work in the nations, and the nations will exalt Him in the end.
All the ends of the earth shall remember
and turn to the Lord,
and all the families of the nations
shall worship before you.
For kingship belongs to the Lord,
and he rules over the nations.
(Psalm 22:27-28, ESV)
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On a winter day I sit with my back to my Colorado garden, lost in an afternoon reverie. In a twinkling I am twelve or thirteen years old again, sitting in the curve of a hard-backed bench, swaying slightly with the movement of the train. But this reminiscence is a waking one, and I follow it, knowing there is a part ahead that my dreams have never replayed.
I’ve said goodbye to my friends at the station closest to our school; each of us now winds her way across the city in different directions. I am left alone to think over the classes and events of a long day, occasionally startled by a blind walker shuffling down the center of each subway car with music emanating from a radio strapped to his hip and a bowl for alms in his hand. The tally of commuters peters out as the train pulls away from another station, and another; the empty seats confirm that we are approaching the end of the line.
The bench across from me clears. I can see my face in the window opposite again, flickering between the small shooting stars of passing tunnel lights. I am tired and worn, an echo-haunted girl looking at an inadequate reflection, unable to resolve the different pieces of my life by looking at my own image.
But soon after the train leaves Ssangmun Station I feel the ground slope up gradually under my feet. In seconds the car comes out of the ash-tinged depths of the earth into sunlight, and I see myself no more; bright trees, hills, and whole neighborhoods whisk by, and I follow these landmarks with my eyes. I know what they signal.
I sit a bit straighter and distribute the weight of my backpack between my shoulders, already finding it lighter than when I set out from school. In only a few minutes the announcement I am waiting for will sound; in a little while, I will be home.
For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face:
now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
– I Cor. 13:12, KJV
Header Photo by Kim Jin Cheol on Unsplash
This is as exquisite, Amy, as as when you first released it. And the pictures are perfect!
Thank you, dear Lancia!